Thank you for sharing your perspective, btmeyers. You make some very good points here.
When I was in middle school, I’d play basketball with my brother and his friends. They were all much bigger and better than me, but I always felt that simply playing with them would make me a better player. So while I completely agree that we should surround ourselves with mentors and those who have a little more experience than we do, I think comparison can still be a negative.
When I played with my brothers and his friends, I wasn’t focused on how much of a better shooter my big brother was than me. I wasn’t focused on how Phil could dribble much better than me. I certainly would watch and try to pick up things from them, but I guess I don’t see that as comparing.
For me, comparing is when you look at the results of another person and weigh them against your own. Many times, for me, it’s a negative experience. But even if you’re results are better, comparison is a temptation to get proud then.
It would be ludicrous for me to say that comparison is ALWAYS bad in EVERY situation. Certainly it has its place. In my experience, however, it’s something to be cautious with. Does that make sense?
Thank you so much for reading and responding. I really appreciate it!